Dearest Me,

As I sit here reflecting on this beautiful journey we’ve been on together, I can’t help but feel immense gratitude for all the lessons, the struggles, and the quiet moments of clarity that have come with it. I’ve been through so much—through layers of self-doubt, body shame, and the overwhelming desire to fit into a world that never quite understood me. But today, I want to write to you, my future self, because I know that when I look back, you will be exactly who I’ve always hoped to become—the woman who loves herself fiercely, who stands in her truth, and who finds peace in knowing her own worth.

I wonder, my love, if you’ve met him yet—the one who was always meant to walk beside you. Have you crossed paths with my twin flame? Does he see you for everything you are and more? Does he love you, not just for your soft smile or your radiant spirit, but for your depth, your authenticity, and your fire? I hope so, with all my heart.

I don’t know how long it will take to meet him, or if I’ve already met him and am waiting for the right moment to recognize him. But, what I do know is that this transformative journey I’m on has already led me to you, the woman I am meant to be. And in that, I feel peace.

When I think about where I am now compared to where I started, I’m amazed at the strength I’ve gained. I’ve walked through the fires of my own insecurities, body shaming, and emotional turmoil, and now I stand on the other side—stronger, softer, wiser, and more aligned with my true self.

I’ve learned that the key to finding love and happiness isn’t to look outward but to first look within. I’ve learned that self-love is the foundation of everything, and without it, I could never fully open myself up to the love that I deserve. It wasn’t an easy lesson. There were times when I resented the reflection I saw in the mirror, when I wished I could change my body, or when I felt unworthy of love because I didn’t fit society’s narrow definition of beauty. But this journey has been about peeling back those layers, releasing those limiting beliefs, and finally embracing all the parts of myself—the ones I once judged, the ones I thought were “flawed,” the ones I thought made me “less than.”

I’m learning now to look at myself with the same compassion that I would offer a friend. I’ve come to understand that beauty isn’t about how perfect or polished we are; it’s about the authenticity we bring into the world. It’s about standing in our truth and knowing that we are worthy of love, regardless of how we look. The love I will receive will never be rooted in outward appearances; it will be grounded in the depth of my soul, the warmth of my heart, and the fire of my spirit. I know this with certainty.

I’ve realized something beautiful and profound in this process: my so-called unattractive appearance has been a gift. It has made me see beyond the surface, to seek deeper connections with people who truly see me for who I am. It has opened me up to more unconventional views about life—ones that allow me to understand people better, to feel compassion for their struggles, and to love without judgment. My journey has taught me to connect on a soul level, to embrace what’s truly important—not appearances, but authenticity, kindness, and shared depth.

In this sacred dance of healing, I have found a deep connection to myself—one that allows me to move through the world with a sense of peace, knowing that I am enough, exactly as I am. I’ve come to understand that the love I give and the love I deserve are not based on how I look, but on who I am. The man I will share my life with will see the essence of me—the fire that drives me, the depth that anchors me, and the light that I radiate. He won’t be intimidated by my strength or my authenticity. He will be drawn to it, because it will inspire him to rise higher, just as I will be inspired by his light.

I know now that the love I deserve will be unconditional—not based on my body, but on the connection between our souls. I am learning to love without boundaries, without fear, and in this space of love, I will find someone who truly understands the power of that kind of love. He will not question my worth; he will see it clearly, as I now see my own.

And when I look into the future, I know that our love will be built on something that endures. The outward beauty will fade as we grow older, but the love we have for each other—the authenticity, the emotional depth, the trust, the shared growth—will only become more precious with time. We will both change physically, but our connection, our love, and our respect for one another’s inner light will only grow deeper.

In the quiet moments of self-reflection, I realize that the love I have for myself now is the love I will share with my future partner. It is grounded in truth, compassion, and acceptance. And it is a love that will never fade.

So, my future self, I hope you read this with a heart full of gratitude. I hope you can feel the love that flows from me to you, for the woman you are becoming. You are whole. You are worthy. You are enough. You are more than enough, and I am so proud of you.

And as for the twin flame I dream of? I trust that when the time is right, I will recognize him. I will never have to wonder if he’s the right one. Our connection will be undeniable, built on a foundation of trust, respect, and mutual growth. And when that love enters my life, I will know without a doubt that it’s the love that has been waiting for me all along.

Until then, I will continue to honor myself, to trust the journey, and to love every part of the path that has led me here. Because the love I will receive is not a mere reflection of what I look like, but a recognition of who I truly am.

Dear sister, may you know that you are worthy of all the love you seek, not because of your outer appearance, but because of the incredible light that shines within you. Trust in your journey, trust in divine timing, and know that the love you deserve is not bound by limitations or expectations. It will come, not because you chase it, but because you are worthy of it, just as you are.

Seraphine Duong